” is a question I hear a lot from single guys aspiring to meet their Mr. After a long dry spell of being on the solo circuit, or even experiencing a series of recurring dating disappointments, the frustration can ultimately balloon into a sense of defeat and jadedness if not careful.
It can happen, but it’s more difficult because of the unknown variables about the men in this establishment, not to mention the sexualized and “cruising” atmosphere can sometimes be an interference.
The key to meeting a compatible partner is to align yourself with venues where there will be a greater probability the men in that context share similar interests and values.
This is why it’s essential in dating to have sufficient self-knowledge and take a personal inventory of who you are and what you stand for.
This means taking stock of your value system, as well as what your personal requirements are for a partner and a relationship.
Without this awareness, dating becomes a random, directionless activity that rarely yields positive results unless one is lucky.
Armed with this information, you can now position yourself in situations and environments where other like-minded men will congregate.Your odds for meeting someone compatible have now tripled, unlike a bar where you have no idea about any of these guys’ backgrounds or intentions.For example, if personal growth and spirituality are key values for you, perhaps going to a gay retreat or conference devoted to these topics would surround you with similar men.Or if you’re big into politics, volunteer for your favorite candidate so you can become involved with others who share this same passion.Personal ads are good starting places to screen out some of these variables when assessing dating profiles, though it is more time consuming to reach the recognition of alignment.The point is the more compatible the venue is with your interests, values, purpose and mission in life, the greater the odds you’ll meet a love match than mixing and mingling in a public place or a bar.