You're holding out hope for the fairy tale that he'll wake up one morning and see the error in his ways and commit to you.Even if that does happen, are you willing to sit on your hands and wait for it to happen?
He has no timetable of when he wants to get the ball rolling on divorce.
Also, if he's been doing this for 2 years, who's to say he's not going to continue another 2 years.
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
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What's happening here is the classic case of "a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing." For many people, men and women, singledom when you don't want to be is a whole lot of nothing.
This is how you end up in these shoe horn type relationships, because being single and happy all the time exhausting.
It's no different than being in a relationship and happy all the time.
Singledom has peaks and valleys just like a relationship does.
For what you're doing with this married man is a tough situation.