Leave clothes in his closet, so he thinks of you all week. (Consider video texts, to diminish miscommunication.) 9. We are inundated with events and people to see each time we visit each other's cities. Whatever you "thought" they meant won't matter tomorrow. Don't dwell on what your partner "meant" by something if you think there are two ways to interpret a text, or an email, or whatever.
I told my (long distance) boyfriend that I was writing this article and asked if he had any tips for others in our position. Three words actually: "Don't do it." And I'm not gonna lie, I pretty much agree.
But if long distance love calls and you must answer, here are some tips from my/our experience. I'd actually never been in a long distance relationship before this one so I didn't really know what to expect. I don't think I realized how much "normal" relationships are spent just experiencing life together.
When you're in a long distance relationship you only have phone calls, texts, emails, and Face Time/Skype.
Fast-forward 15 months, and you've got C+C forever. We're no longer dating within the 15-mile radius for 28 to 34 year-old males.1. That moment when he starts waxing intellectual about the morality of a landing page? That moment when I first see Corey at the end of a day on Face Time, nothing else seems to matter.
(You can see pics here.) Yep, we're a living, breathing Tinder success story.
That's why I'm so grateful we live in the age of video: Video texts, Google Hangout, Skype. Being busy is no excuse to bury your relationship on your priority list. (More on this in future posts.) As a general rule, Caitlin and I aim to see each other three times a month, and we plan at last two weekends in advance. Even chatting on the phone prevents you from seeing body language, which makes up almost half (45 percent) of how people understand and related to each other. Those obnoxious couples that selfie their way off your News Feed? Distance sucks, but I treat my relationship as an utmost priority, the same way I treat everything else that matters most to me in life. Communication is almost 100 percent nonverbal (93 percent, to be exact). (Pause for full-body shiver and cringe.) But STILL. (Sometimes, doing nothing is the most fun we ever have). Okay, not so far when compared to bi-coastal couples. Then, cook a TON before you leave, so he'll literally metabolize you two times per day until Friday. (Bonus points for Instacart pre-deliveries, so you can optimize your time together. Can you still call it sexting if it's only foreplay? It's okay to skip that rager for an evening of doing nothing. Nothing wrong with spilling your soft side out more often than you're comfortable with, much less to your gal. There's no such thing as saying it enough, if you mean it. (Yes, especially those tiny shorts he loves.) Stock up each other's bathroom, so you don't have to lug your toiletries every weekend. Be social from time to time, but also be conscious of nurturing what matters most -- YOU GUYS.