So you've joined an online dating site, and someone has caught your eye - so, what now?
The first message you send can make or break your chances of a successful first date - so it's important you get it right.
Avoid being cheesy though - aim your joke at something you both have in common - perhaps something in her profile - maybe a movie? Prove you've actually read her profile with a compliment about her taste in music, a great restaurant, or a country he's visited.
Warm compliments work well in first messages, but superficial ones can have a reverse effect, or come across as weird - so stick to something factual.
Finding some common ground can open the door for great conversation.
Look through his/her music interests, favourite foods, their job and try and spark up conversation based on what they're into.
But make sure it's an open one, or the conversation could end before it's begun.
Avoid suggesting a face-to-face date in your first message, instead stick to something you've seen on their profile - do you share the same music taste? Get their attention with a simple 'hey' - it's tested, and it works.
Your initial message should be straight and to the point - but make sure you follow up with something more creative, perhaps an open question, or a straight forward how are you?
So girls and guys must have drastically different experiences with online dating.
The girls post a profile and get bombarded with messages from guys, guys scan profiles and message the girls.
So, do you have any advice for how to get my message to stand out? Most dating sites have a flirty option which allows you to express your interest without having to actually message a person.
(On How About We, this is the “I’m Intrigued” button, on OKCupid it’s a wink.) In general, this is not a good way for a guy to approach a girl on an online dating site.