still think Taylor Swift is a country singer obsessed with writing songs about her exes, when you know she's more of a pop princess in love with her girl squad these days. It sucks being the one in the relationship who can't drive (or get into an R-rated movie, or stay out past 11 p.m.). We're not saying Mom and Dad have to love bae as much as you do, but having their support makes your life 10 times easier.
You're not actually that many years apart in age, but those years make a big difference sometimes, especially when it comes to pop culture. Even if bae is super chill about seeing a PG-13 movie instead of the R movie you guys had originally chosen, it's never not embarrassing when you can't do something because you're too young. Some parents are nervous about their "baby" dating someone older — and that might make them less likely to offer you rides to your BF/GF's house or let you spend time at their place.
If you're in different grades, that means you probably run in different social circles.
), but it does mean that group hang-outs might be a little bit awk until you and bae's friends become tight — and vice versa for your BF/GF and your squad.6.
Your BF/GF and/or their friends constantly teases you about your age. They might not want to hang out with your friends because they feel too old. Depending on your school's rules (or your parents' rules), you might not be able to go together.
Just cause you were born in the year 2000 doesn't mean you're an *actual* baby, thank you very much. Clearly, they're fine when it comes to dating someone younger. But for some reason, they can get all weird about it. Some schools only let in current seniors; others have rules about not allowing people older than 18 attend. When bae goes off to college, you either have to attempt long-distance or break up. Long-distance is incredibly challenging — you wind up going weeks or months without seeing each other, spending lots of time and money traveling back and forth, and the distance can make it hard to feel like a real part of each other's lives.
But breaking up just because of the distance can feel like throwing away something amazing, and that can be really sad. If you stay together when bae goes off to college, you feel like you're living in two different worlds.
All of a sudden, bae is living in a dorm with a roommate instead of at home with Mom and Dad.
They have a major instead of gym class and call the people teaching their classes 12.
They might want to hook up or have sex before you're ready. You don't need to jump into having sex just because they're older than you are or because they've had sex before.
You should never feel pressured into doing anything you're not comfortable with, no matter how old your S. If anything, they might be a tiny bit more mature than people your own age, which means more likely to understand that you need to go at your own pace. If you're in America, federal (national) law makes it criminal to have sex with someone ages 12 - 16 if they're at least four years younger than you are.
And if they're not cool with that, they don't deserve to date you. And every state has their own additional laws on the books.
Some states (like California) say that no one under the age of 18 can consent to sex unless they're married.
Others, like South Carolina, say the age of consent is 16, but people as young as 14 can consent to sex with a partner who's under 18.