I want to know where you stand on the whole “staying friends with your ex” thing. We’ve both been loving, attentive, kind and considerate.Recently I moved to the country/ town where my boyfriend lives, after a few months of long-distance relationship with visits intermittent. Two things happened when I got here, however, which have me thinking. First, when I arrived I was very ill with a horrible cold.My boyfriend was also sick (with food poisoning) but he avoided me physically. He explained it was because he didn’t want to get sick again in the last few days before his work ended before vacation. I had thought he’d lost interest but took what he said and accepted it.
The text was from his ex-girlfriend arranging to meet him for lunch on Friday.
I made the additional mistake of scrolling back and then realised they’Well, I wrote a note saying “I’m sorry I invaded your privacy.
When the text came I thought it might have been important.
Your ex-girlfriend wasn’t to meet you for lunch on Friday.” I was very tired and just went up to bed. He defended being friends with her (they dated for about two years) saying she helped him during a very difficult time in his life and so on. Also, I pointed out his tendency to keep his relations with her private.
Once in the past, he had received a text from her and he turned over the phone so I wouldn’t notice.
I made no comment at that time…I think it is unacceptable for him to be meeting her, texting and talking with her when he is four months into a new relationship. He said he’s not attracted to her and so on, but I just don’t like the idea of him hanging out with her, what if he invites her over for dinner, etc?
By the way, I do trust my boyfriend, but I find it almost an insult to me, or to our relationship, that he would still be in touch with her.
Please answer my question, I’d love to know what you think.
Thanks, Emily Dear Emily, Yeah, you probably asked the wrong guy.