And if you don't physically appeal to your target objective, forget about it; it won't matter if you've got Anderson Cooper's personality.
This makes sense in part, because men tend to be more visual.
But I do have a friend who refuses to post a picture for professional reasons and he rarely gets any reponses.
In fact, one woman admonished him for not posting a picture: "If I have to put one up there you should to," she said.
I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.
Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.
In my zeal to find out as much about Andy's good fortune as possible I innocently asked: "So, how'd you two meet? Realizing I stepped into something awkward I thought to myself: OMG they met in prison; or on a street corner.
After a few seconds passed and all of our skin tones returned to a normal light pinkish color Carol responded: "Well, uh, we met online...that's right...online...the computer." Okay, so it was a pretty good impression of Annie Hall, but why all the fuss? Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention?
Most people I've interviewed prefer online dating to the bar scene because online dating offers a better chance of getting a first date.
Post a reasonably attractive picture, sell your life's resume, and wait for the solicitations to pour in.
A few e-mails and a telephone call or two will allow your personality to work for you—a real plus.
In the bar scene it's all about your looks; you don't have the luxury of putting your best picture out there because—you're out there—in the flesh.