Her older brother had invited a bunch of the people they worked with at the mountain over and I happened to be there. I think he was attracted to me because I asked him out, and I was able to banter with him off the bat. My friend (who was my age and in high school with me) worked at a ski resort near us. He's always been attracted to a person's personality. He actually thought I was older than I am, and both his wives were close to him in age. We started dating and it developed into a relationship shortly after. Woman D: We met initially at a mutual friend's house. Selecting a much younger partner increased the odds of him finding such a person. He has had three other serious relationships and they were all age-appropriate.
They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him?
I've had crushes and done the odd online date, but I'd never dated seriously before. We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. Woman A: I was working in retail at the time, and he was a customer. He looks younger than he is and is in very good shape.
The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity.
Woman C: I knew he was older, I just didn't think that he was that much older.Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.I think it was a thrill for him and gave him a chance to relive some of his adolescence.Would you say that you are more attracted to older men than younger men, or men in your age group? I've also always been attracted to power dynamics and to the idea of inhabiting a more sexually submissive role.My theory is that the two are linked and that the age difference facilitates a dom/sub dynamic.